Come Away … To a Quiet Place, and Rest Awhile

I’ve been very tired recently. Physically, yes, but more than that, I am weary within myself. 400-04723932
I’ve tried to do what is right and give of myself to the service and/or needs of others. (I think this is living the example Jesus showed us.) Recently, though, the result is that I feel tapped out, unable and unwilling to help anyone, almost to the point of “I just don’t care anymore.” A Bible verse from Galatians came to mind today, the one about not giving up in doing good because in due time is the harvest. As with any scripture, this verse can and will be interpreted in many ways, and I have chosen not to interpret, but rather embrace the simple instruction, “Don’t give up in doing good.” helping-others_humility_serving-628x417

Reading further in Matthew Henry’s commentary, I found this: “We are to bear one another’s burdens. So we shall fulfill the law of Christ. This obliges to mutual forbearance and compassion towards each other, agreeably to his example. It becomes us to bear one another’s burdens, as fellow-travellers. It is very common for a man to look upon himself as wiser and better than other men, and as fit to dictate to them. Such a one deceives himself; by pretending to what he has not, he puts a cheat upon himself, and sooner or later will find the sad effects. This will never gain esteem, either with God or men. Every one is advised to prove his own work. The better we know our own hearts and ways, the less shall we despise others, and the more be disposed to help them under infirmities and afflictions

This part gave me pause: “It is very common for a man to look upon himself as wiser and better than other men, and as fit to dictate to them.” Oh, I hope I haven’t misunderstood my earnest desire to help someone, and instead have been seeing myself as “wiser and better than others.”

I think it is time for me to step back from my role as mentor and counselor and reassess why I do what I do. I’m not giving up, certainly, but maybe I need to rethink what drives me when I hold out a helping hand. Have I lost myself in service to others? Is my motivation to serve others, or is it to shore up an oft-teetering sense of self-esteem? Could it possibly be both? Do I overdo it? Am I not giving enough?

In the book of Mark, Jesus told his disciples to come away from the crowd to a quiet place and rest awhile. I shall do so.

Bear with me while I do this, all right? mediation on hillside

Blessings, dear friends.

10 Replies to “Come Away … To a Quiet Place, and Rest Awhile”

  1. I am guilty of this too. I forget I have to take care of myself first. In my desire to help others, I say “yes” when I should have said “no”, and stretch myself too thin, unable to really help anyone, or accomplish what *I* need to do.

    Nineteenth-century poet and author George MacDonald cautioned, โ€œWork is not always required. There is such a thing as a sacred idleness, the cultivation of which is now fearfully neglected.โ€

    So rest, dear friend, and find your best self, so you can then serve others the way you are supposed to.

  2. It is easy to get into ‘fix-it’ mode and become exhausted. I’ve begun making people ask for my help! Even then, I try to think about it
    It’s a part of seeing the big picture. You see the cliff ahead and are willing to help avoid that first step off the edge. It is amazing how many times people will turn on their own and didn’t require our energy.

    1. Yes, Judy, it’s often the wiser way to go to let someone ask. It’s good to try to pull yourself up then, failing that, ask for help. But it’s good to offer a helping hand, too.

  3. K.D, I feel your pain. How many times have I prayed for guidance and asking what have I done wrong. Oh, how many times, did I want to be me, without having to be weighted down with what I figured people wanted me to do and be. Three years ago, I figured out I was praying for help and before God answered, I called the shots. Now, each morning I ask for God to lead the way and I will follow. I have found peace and quiet time. I took a week off for me and I can say no. Its between God and me for I don’t have to prove myself over and over. Be still and listen to the Lord’s soft voice telling you its okay to say no.

  4. Dear Kady,

    Not once in the three years I have been blessed to know you have I thought you were anything but kind and giving and a very good example of how one should live life.

    Take all the time you need. Rest, recreate, rejuvenate. The world needs your light.

    Love,

    Doug

  5. We’ve all felt this way at one point or another in our lives. Finding your center is imperative to helping others. It’s putting your oxygen mask on first. It’s not an act of selfishness, it’s selflessness. If you aren’t breathing, you can’t help your neighbor. Take your time, soak it up, find your center. You and everyone around you will be happier. ๐Ÿ˜€ Love you, lady. You are HUGE for me.
    ~Val.

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